Penguin hunting....

Penguin hunting...Gentoo penguin hunting that is...

No, I am not talking about hunting with bows and arrows or guns or any other weapon unless you count the heart as a weapon.

I have been on a quest to find my Gentoo penguin for many years. Gentoo are a type of penguins who typically mate for life which I find very endearing.

Can you imagine finding one true love and spending the rest of your life with that person?

Recently, there was a couple in the news who have spent over 80 years together. They definitely found their Gentoo penguin. How beautiful? How rare? How special?

I, unfortunately, will not make the news headlines for spending 80 years with the same person because my path to find a penguin has not been pleasant. Instead of dating a gentoo penguin, I thought I would date a few frogs, snakes, and basically grub worms which are generally referred to as root-feeding headaches for the turf pros. I think that about sums up my dating life - root -feeding headaches!

How many of you have also been on this path? Hunting for your penguin only to find a grub worm?

Are you on this path because all of the "good guys" are taken or because there aren't any good guys left?
Or are you on this path because of how you feel about yourself?

For a while, I thought all of the good guys were taken but I have come to realize that I was finding the grub worms because of the way I felt about me....the way I perceived myself...not because the penguins are all taken.

I am confessing to a horrible dating life based on my own feelings about myself even though I wasn't aware of them for a long time. I am offering this confession because I am hoping to help other ladies realize there are better days ahead of you.

How do you feel about yourself? How do you perceive yourself? What light are you projecting?

A person cannot feel down about themselves and reflect a positive light to others. You can't fake it till you make it on this one, folks!

When your light is on but the container is weak and flimsy, the light can be snuffed out by everyone else.

In the dating world, others can spot that flimsy container a lot easier than you realize. They can even spot an unsafe wire even if you don't know the power is flickering. The ones who are drawn to your light because they need or want to be fixed or because they want to take advantage will zone in on you and will drain every bit of electricity from your light and leave you in a dark and lonely place.

My advice to all of you ladies in the dating world is to be aware of the light you project. Know yourself. Know what you want and believe you deserve better than to be used and abused.

Put a beautiful ceramic fixture around your flickering light. Allow your light to grow bright and strong and it will guide you on your path to find a Gentoo penguin.

Happy hunting!
Rhonda